Friends of Aesthetic Realism
       Countering the Lies
“It’s a lie, and not a well told one at that.
  It grins out like a copper dollar.”

                  —Abraham Lincoln

Statement by Anne Fielding, Aesthetic Realism Consultant, Actress, Director of the Aesthetic Realism Theatre Company

About the new, disgusting lie that people are told whom to marry

To have the nerve to say people who study Aesthetic Realism are told whom to marry is ugly and sick. It's a filthy insult to women and men in relation to that deeply intimate aspect of people's lives—love and marriage. The putting forth of such a smear is an example of how much this liar feels he has the right to make up anything.

     And as of summer 2008, it is a new lie. After all this time, he manufactures it.  

     I tell now about myself. When, in my late teens and beginning my theatrical career, I met Sheldon Kranz, poet, editor, and later Aesthetic Realism consultant, I fell in love with him—his charm, his good looks, his intellect, his warmth, his humor, his knowledge of literature and drama. The notion that I was “told” to marry him is preposterous! I was following the dictates of my own heart.

     And as a consultant for over thirty years with the trio There Are Wives, I'm proud to say the way Aesthetic Realism sees marriage is beautiful, practical, kind—and romantic! Nothing respects the meaning of marriage more, or sees it with more exactitude and freshness. And it's a pleasure to teach this knowledge to women with my colleagues Barbara Allen and Pauline Meglino in consultations and in our much loved monthly “Understanding Marriage” class, which is attended by women of diverse ages and backgrounds and life experiences.   Women learn the basis for a kind, successful marriage. Whether a woman is just married, thinking of marriage, or has been married for many years, she learns what she's most hoping to know on the subject: “The purpose of marriage is to like the world.” And women learn too—and are relieved and grateful—about the thing that hurts, even ruins married life, the thing that makes wives and husbands furious and unkind to each other: the fact that they “have tried to love in a way that would mean less like for the world—in fact, a contempt for it.”

     Here's how these lively, deeply educational classes are described in the Aesthetic Realism Foundation course brochure:

Through studying the opposites of contempt and respect in the history of marriage and in their own lives, including yesterday's incident at the breakfast table, wives learn how to use marriage and a husband to like the world.   There is class discussion of such subjects as: Real Trust in Marriage—How Can We Have It?; Is Understanding Your Husband Exciting?; How Can a Wife Feel Proud about Sex?; First Cupid, Then Quarrels—What's the Cause?

And to see what the consultations There Are Wives gives are like, and what women say about them, go to my website:

  • Read statements by many individual men and women
  • Reviews from the NY Times Book Review, Saturday Review, Library Journal, Harlem Times, Popular Photography, and more
  • The poetry by Eli Siegel, so greatly respected by William Carlos Williams and many others
  • Read lectures by Eli Siegel on subjects as diverse as literature, love, & economics
  • What is learned in classes taught by Ellen Reiss

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    Statements by Friends of Aesthetic Realism

    Barbara Allen
    Frances Amello
    Jerry Amello
    Christopher Balchin
    Mara Bennici
    David Berger
    Alice Bernstein
    Rachel J. Bernstein
    Barbara Buehler
    Gina Buffone
    Beverly Sue Burk
    Maureen Butler
    Jeffrey Carduner
    Margot Carpenter
    Lori & Robert Colavito
    Albert Corvino
    Nicholas Corvino
    Henry D'Amico
    Matthew D’Amico
    Ernest DeFilippis
    Vincent DiPietro
    Carol Driscoll
    Donita Ellison
    Anne Fielding
    Lorraine Galkowski, RN
    Wendy Gaynor
    Pamela Goren
    Edward Green
    Avi Gvili
    Ames Huntting
    Mark Lale
    Dale Laurin
    Rose Levy
    Timothy Lynch
    Lorraine Mahoney, RN
    Derek Mali
    Glenn Mariano
    Haroldo Mauro Jr.
    Joseph Meglino
    Pauline Meglino
    Allan Michael
    Marvin Mondlin
    Robert Murphy
    Michael J. Nadeau
    Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman
    Ruth Oron
    Arnold Perey, PhD
    Lauren Phillips
    Jack Plumstead
    Maria Plumstead
    Rosemary Plumstead
    Rev. Wayne Plumstead
    Marcia Rackow
    Zvia Ratz
    Ann Richards
    Anthony C. Romeo
    Leila Rosen
    Rhonda Rosenthal
    Sally Ross
    Claudia Senatore
    Sheldon Silverman
    Jeffrey Sosinsky, MD
    Barbara Spetly McClung
    Joseph Spetly
    Faith K. Stern
    John Stern
    Arlene Sulkis
    Devorah Tarrow
    Jaime R. Torres, DPM
    Dennis L. Tucker
    Francine Weber
    Steve Weiner
    Miriam Weiss
    Carrie Wilson

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